Dear 30-year old me

Thia Adaugo

Hi Cynthia (or is it Adaugo now?),

How are you? I hope you are genuinely happy? Did you find love with your ‘ideal’ guy? How ideal exactly is he? Are you married? Do you both have kids? Do you now have your Masters and PhD degrees, as we planned? I truly wish you have achieved all these because it will determine how the rest of this ‘conversation’ goes.

You have, haven’t you? Fan-tas-tic. Ada bekee! Oya take five …

Tell me more though. Still wearing glasses? Or do you interchange them with contacts? Or wait, you got the laser eye surgery against the doctor’s instructions, as we planned, didn’t you?

I hope you now work at the United Nations and that your resume is very impressive. 19-year old Cynthia had huge plans for this, hope you played to the script?

I hope you are making impact, because that is something we always dreamed of? Talking about dreams, are you still the girl with the ‘heart of a dreamer’ and ‘mind of a fighter’? I hope you are, and that you still laugh a lot. I hope you’ve stopped frowning in strange environments and that you’re no longer shy. I hope you finally worked on your public speaking, as we planned as 17, 18 and then 19-year olds.

How is feminism treating you? Are you still disgruntled when people don’t agree with gender equality, especially your point of view? I hope Mr. Ideal is a feminist and he treats you right, and supports you. Do you still cry when handling matrimonial or physical abuse cases? Have you started impacting the girl child and teenager?

How is your walk with God? I hope it is now clearer how to love Him. I hope you are bringing your children and mentees up in His will? Hope your relationship with Him has soared, and His love still amazes you. Cynthia, I hope you have learnt to love yourself wholly.

I hope you still write. That you have developed to the point that you now have your own style. I hope Chimamanda is still your favourite writer and that you have told her so, personally.

How does it feel living as an adult? I hope you’re enjoying it. Do you still openly criticize Nigerian politics and the African-man mentality? Do you live in Lagos or Enugu or abroad?

How are Mum and Dad? Do you still call them that – Mum and Dad, or are they now Mpa and Mma? I hope you’re taking care of them, sending them on yearly vacations. Is Daddy still running his firm? I hope so, and that he is still gyming. By the way, you better have started gyming too. What about Obi? What has he been up to? I hope Ezinma is married. I hope you are still best friends and your boos get very jealous (the good kind) when you’re together. Do you still eat her food? Hope she eats yours more regularly now. What about Amara (or is it still Min. Amara Pearl), Chinomnso, Rita, Dera, Amanda, Didi, Henry, Prince, Josephine, Abigail? I hope Dera is famous now and that Amara has started her school runs project? Is Amanda married? I truly hope she is. I hope they are all truly happy.

Dear Cynthia Adaugo, I hope you’re still deep and still look beyond exterior façades. Most importantly, I hope you are only in competition with yourself and that you’re living God’s will and purpose for you. Finally, I truly wish that you are content with all of this you have achieved.


It’s me,



Cynthia Adaugo Mbajunwa is a Christian Igbo Nigerian African female. She loves, as wholly as possible, and looks to make a difference no matter how little. She is sarcastic and shy, a bold feminist currently studying to become a lawyer.


We hope the 30-year old you also looks as fresh and fly as you look here, Cynthia 🙂

Words Are Work … and fun too!

21 replies added

  1. Walter November 13, 2015 Reply

    I’ve become a huge fan of this writer. The humour she weaves into her writing though. Love love love!

    • Chisom November 13, 2015 Reply

      Me too! Lovest lovest lovest!

  2. Chizzy November 13, 2015 Reply

    Cynthia, have we met before?? Maybe we are pong lost twins.

    Wonderful piece dear

    • Chisom November 13, 2015 Reply

      Lol. The twin hustle is real mehnnn 🙂
      Thia, I will not forget to join my own mouth joor. You did wonderful with this one *thumbs*

  3. charly November 13, 2015 Reply

    I love it. still want to know what obi is up to tho

  4. Amara Pearl November 13, 2015 Reply

    Ada, this is beautiful…..30yr old Amara sends her love and shed be writing to u soon!

    • Chisom November 13, 2015 Reply

      Yeah, we can’t wait. 30-year old Amara, mee osiso

  5. Kachi November 13, 2015 Reply

    Cynthia this is beautiful. Well done!

  6. Ezinma November 13, 2015 Reply

    Adaugo dear. nice write up. i wonder what we would be like at 30. #shivers. we would definitely be hot! that’s for sure 😉

  7. Mbajunwa Cynthia November 13, 2015 Reply

    Thank you guys, of course we will be extremely hot ezinma now…

    • Chisom November 13, 2015 Reply

      hehehe … these two gehs sef. If you wee be hot at 30, what do you want to now coman be at 25? Incinerator?!!

    • Chisom December 7, 2015 Reply

      That’s yet another word for it. Thanks, Ann

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